Parenthood is not always happy times and wonderful moments. Odd times surfaced unexpectedly too where our parenting knowledge and skills are being challenged. One of these few challenges that we frequently come across is children’s illness. Most mums and dads if not all find it dreadful and worrying. I think the best way to get the grips of it is to look through the good and bad side when faced with such a situation.
A few weeks ago, my motherly nature had been formidably tested again when Ruby was unwell. I hate it when my kids are so poorly as it shakes the comfortable routine we have in place. It can’t be avoided though as kids go through them every year like the last time when Ruby is not feeling great.
However, whilst looking after Ruby being crappy, I have noticed some good and bad side of it. Here goes my list.
- Checking temperature and giving medicines
Whether you like it or not, thermometer and medicines became your best buddies. It’s the first thing that comes to your mind and want to reach out to until your child feels better. I turned into a paranoid well-being when my kids are ill that I constantly checked their temperature. Worst of all, some medicines like antibiotics have to be consumed with empty stomach, so it’s difficult to find the right timing with it whilst trying to work out how to evenly space the dosage per day. You don’t want to wake up a sick child just to take a medicine, don’t you?
- Cleaning up vomit
Most kids who are under the weather tend to puked too. Ruby had a bad cough and every time she’s coughing she’s also inclined to throw up. That made me so thankful for my antibacterial wipes, towel, kitchen roll and blanket as they’re so handy during a stinky and messy times cleaning up the vomit. Despite of their assistance, I still hate it, who doesn’t anyway?
- Interrupted sleeps
Waking up a couple of times in the middle of the night and even almost every hour is expected when you’re dealing with a sick child. This time, it’s not the alarm clock that wakes me up but her crying and whining, not until I let her sleep in our bed where her restlessness still left me wide awake. Most of the time, the constant wailing was even unnecessary, she just wants attention regardless of the time of the day.
- Doctor’s Visit
Getting an appointment to see the Doctor is a struggle rather than an inconvenience. Our health centre opens at 8am, and as soon as the clock struck 8, I was already on the phone constantly ringing them. It took me 40 minutes til I managed to get through and had finally booked an appointment. On top of that, bringing a sick child outside the house is not ideal for the fear that she might get sick in the public area. But it’s still best to have her checked to put the anxiety away.
- Childcare Issues
At work, I’m only given 1 day of carers leave or should I say upon manager’s discretion, of course it all depends if you’re in the good or bad books. You get 2 days if you fight for it. Company politics I suppose! Situation is made worst if your child is sick/vomiting, Childminder’s policy is not to take kids who are sick within 48 hours since the last episode of sickness. This is how another dilemma enter into the picture. Family support? I don’t have any so I ended up having to take annual leave for a couple of days until she felt better.
Here goes the good side of it too… the “it’s not too bad after all scenario”:
- Bountiful of cuddles
One of the advantages that I benefit when my kids are so poorly is that their need for warm cuddles… I just love it when they cuddled back when I hug them. I think all parents are at the same boat with me here. Although it can be annoying when they’re overly clingy but I don’t mind it when they’re not feeling well as it feels like having a baby again.
- Mummy bonding time
Who doesn’t want to feel important and in demand? I do, and I love it when all they want is Mummy to care and look after them, unlike the normal “they want to do their own stuff kind of thing”. Mummy and kids bonding time just feels nice. I have to say, their Daddy got jealous with these moments I’ve got with them.
- Being off work
Sometimes working Monday to Friday seems too much, two days off on a weekends is not enough to relax as you’re catching up with chores at home. But when my kids are not feeling too well which means I can be off work, Yay! I love to just be at home, relaxing and spending quiet moments with the sick child. Perfect time to have a lazy day and have a Movie Time in bed. I absolutely won’t mind that at all, would you?
Have you seen any good and bad side too when your kids are not feeling well?
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