Pros and Cons when Daddy is away…

Last Sunday, my husband flew over to South of France for a work-related trip.  He is away for a total of 6 days now and will finally be coming home today, later in the afternoon to be exact.  So far, this has been the longest time we are apart.

Do we miss him? Of course we do… especially the kiddies, they miss their Daddy’s bonding time and even their tickle fights too.

However, I’ve noticed that whilst he’s not here at home, there are actually a handful of advantages which I’m enjoying as well as disadvantages which I’m missing…  I must say, him being elsewhere specifically out of the country, reminded me when I was on my teenage years when my Parents used to go away to visit my Grandparents.  Teenager with independence and freedom was just wonderful.  Except now, I am not anymore a teenager and I have work and family responsibilities to juggle around myself alone.

So here goes….. the PROS!

  • There’s NO more mugs/cups and wine glasses lying in either the computer desk top or bedside table.
  • There’s NO more teaspoons lying everywhere in kitchen worktops which he normally used to remove teabags from a cup.
  • There’s NO more work shoes and trainers lying near the staircase which are meant to be stored in the shoe shelf.
  • There’s NO more used clothes and dirty socks lying on the floor next to him on his side of bed.
  • There’s NO more work trousers hanging in one of the dining chairs.
  • There’s one less person fighting to use the toilet especially first thing in the morning or at night time.
  • Best of all, there’s NO more stinky farts either…. so Heavenly!

Honestly, it’s not all positive that he’s not here at home in the last 6 days.  That’s rather unappreciative and unjust.   In all fairness to him, I find some negative things too I suppose.  That I wished it would have been better if he is here to give me a hand especially looking after the kiddies.

And here goes ….. the CONS!

  • I MISS somebody who would strictly impose discipline towards the kids, somebody who is always consistent with putting kids in naughty step if they deserve it.  Most of the time, I can’t be bothered with it especially if I’m too tired from work.
  • I MISS somebody who would sometimes bring us a surprise cake or sweeties from work.
  • I MISS somebody who drives the car as I don’t have my own car and I don’t drive either.  We miss the convenience of having him driving us either to shops or just spontaneously anywhere we fancy.
  • I MISS somebody who would suddenly bring us out to buy a McFlurry at McDonald’s Drive Thru
  • I MISS somebody who would facilitate family Movie Night Time especially on weekends.
  • I MISS somebody who would take turn collecting Reimer up from Primary school when I’m too tired and lazy to walk up to collect him myself.
  • I MISS somebody who would help shower the kids and prepare them for bedtime and read them stories too.
  • Granting I’m so delighted having two little monkeys sleeping over at our bed room where I’m drowned with sweet little cuddles.  Regardless of all, I still MISS my bed mate terribly.

Apparently, his presence is of paramount importance than his absence, no wonder we all looked forward to him coming home.  Reimer who is as thoughtful as he is, had suggested yesterday to make a card to give to his Dad when he arrived.  I didn’t even thought of making one, but he did, he’s just the sweetest little man ever.

Here it is…

Red colors are meant to be hearts… I should have helped him with this one.
He's so proud of his artwork
He’s so proud of his artwork

As this post goes live, he is already on his flight home.  I have to time it that way so he won’t obviously be able to read this post and possibly see the surprise card that Reimer made for him.  I’m sure his Daddy would be chuffed!

 Have you tried being away from your husband/partner and being alone with the kids?

Did you noticed any pros and cons too when daddy is away?

This post is linked up with:

The Little Life of Ickle Pickle
Baby Brain Memoirs
My Random Musings
The Dad Network

24 thoughts on “Pros and Cons when Daddy is away…

  • Its true what they say – we can’t live with them, we can’t live without them 😉 #bigfatlinky

  • I feel the same when mine’s away or out for the night, pros and cons! #bigfatlinky

  • Talya

    Yes to all of this! But the biggest pro for me is that my daughter doesn’t try and play us off against each other because she can’t! #sundaystars

  • Ooooh I know this feeling! We’re a military family and He is away constantly. I can so sympathise with the car scenario… I don’t drive either. I’m very grateful to be living in a country where online shopping is thriving!
    I miss mine the most around the bath time/bedtime mark too. When he’s home we alternate – one of us prepares ‘the grown up’s” dinner with a glass of wine, while the other does bath and bed. When he’s away .. I miss that support.
    Hope you enjoyed the fuzzy, happy feeling of the front door opening and knowing he is home!

    • ReimerandRuby

      I can’t really complain that he’s away for only 6days, knowing some Dads are away far longer than that like your hubby. Husband support is what we missed most, dealing with kids plus work seemed too much. It’s not just me whose happy when he arrived, the kids too expecting their surprise presents, lol. Thanks for your lovely comment!

  • That card is adorable. Good on you for flying solo all week, I find it tough when hubby is away. But I find it hard in equal measures when he works from home, a third child to create mess and washing up 😉 I’ve not read your blog before so it was nice to read a little about the name I’ve seen pop up so much on Twitter. I’ll be back 🙂 x MMT via #babybrainmondays

    • ReimerandRuby

      lol, I totally agree, husbands are considered as one of our kids too, as they add more work for us. Actually, I’ve noticed it as well, lesser laundry for me that weekend while he was away. Thanks for your dropping by and for your lovely comment!

  • I fly solo every week from Sunday to Thursday night inclusive as BattleDad works in London while our home and my work is in South Wales. I miss his help in the evenings with BattleKid and look forward to my Friday nights off but I don’t miss his snoring during the week. They’re the better nights sleep I get! Sshh, don’t tell him.

    • ReimerandRuby

      I totally understand about the snoring… should have a good night sleep myself if I didn’t let my little boy sleep over at our bed, but I did, big mistake as he snores too and grinds teeth which is even worse.

  • Aww my hubby works a way some times only normally for a week at a time and there are definitely pros and cons!! I love your lists and can really relate to the last pro! MEN! 🙂 Looks like the kids are very happy he’s home too xx#BabyBrainMondays

    • ReimerandRuby

      At least, I’m not alone complaining about stinky farts. Men seem to think it’s normal, lol Yes, they’re glad their Dad is home but actually, they’re only after for the surprise presents, lol

  • Aww, i completely understand and get it! I feel like that when Jordan is out for just a night and day!! Lovely read too! Suz x

  • Ahhh what a lovely post! I can relate to both lists – the no farts is a nice bonus lol But of course you are missing all of those wonderful gestures, your husband sounds like a really caring & fun dad! #BabyBrainMonday x

    • ReimerandRuby

      aw thank you Becky! Farting seemed normal for them, I think it’s a man thing, lol.

  • I think its normal to miss them, but not all of them lol. Such a sweet little card 🙂
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes

  • jude hurrell

    Love this post – can totally relate to the farting plus point and the help with bedtime negative points. Can’t live with them, can’t live without they ahey? But he sounds like a lovely dad. #sundaystars

  • Harps

    Aww such a cute post – it’s true, can’t live with them can’t live without them! When Preetam is away, it means I can actually impose some discipline! Arjun knows he can get away with absolutely anything when daddy’s around! Thanks for linking up to #babybrainmonday hun xx

    • ReimerandRuby

      so true! at home, we’re the other way around, their dad is more strict than me… Discipline is a must for growing kids though.

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