The long journey of Potty Training

“Potty Training is the process of teaching a child on how to use a potty or toilet.”

Potty Training may be plain sailing for a few little darlings and yet it for many others, it can turn into a long dreadful journey…

I initially thought potty training with Ruby is easier as I’m already equipped with the experience and knowledge I had with Reimer.   Well, I’m absolutely wrong!  Potty training your second child doesn’t guarantee an easy peasy journey.  I have to agree with what other people said, that every child is different, which is why it’s best not to compare a particular child with the other.  I think this goes the same with potty training the kids too.

First time in the toilet.
First time in the toilet.

I started potty training Ruby when she just turned 2 yrs. old.  Although I’m still unsure if I made the right decision or have I?

However, after a lot of setbacks along the way.  Finally, I can proudly say that she’s already potty trained now, Yipee!  By now, I’m confident enough taking her out and about minus the nappy on.  A milestone that took her 7 months to achieve since I first started the challenge of potty training her.  Yes! you’ve heard it right, 7 months which was rather a long journey!

When I potty trained Reimer before, it all started when he was already 2 1/2 years old.  As far as I can remember, it only lasted a short period of time.  In fact, he was already well-trained before his 3rd birthday.  During that time, I was on maternity leave which means I was at home most of the time which made his potty training done regularly and consistently.

Consistency was what’s lacking with Ruby’s potty training.  It doesn’t help when both me and her dad work most of the day from Monday until Friday means kids are at Childminders care.  Even though our lovely Childminder carried on with Ruby’s potty training at her end which was a real bonus.  Unfortunately, it lacks consistency at home.  I have to admit, it’s my fault for being too tired from work that sometimes I forgot to constantly remind her to go to the toilet if she want to pee as I was overpowered with my “I can’t be bothered” attitude.  It’s my fault for being too lazy to clean up the possible mess that she will be making if I will not put her nappy on.  Hence, her nappy stayed on the whole day mostly on weekdays which I assumed have given her mixed signals.  Don’t get me wrong, a couple of times on weekends when I’m off work, I always tried removing her nappy off the whole day apart from nap time and bedtime but have it on again when we’re out.  These inconsistent approach had brought on few accidents which sometimes made me go through the roof.  I was stressed and frustrated I guess!

Anyhow, last Saturday’s weather was relatively wet, so we stayed indoors the whole day.  Thus, I jumped at the chance and had the courage to let her off nappy the whole day apart from bedtime.  I was surprisingly amazed how she did well.  Last Sunday was the big test run as we were mostly out of the house from morning til afternoon, and she didn’t have any accident at all.  I felt relieved and so proud of her!

She has done remarkably well too apart from one blip this whole week whilst she was at her Childminders’.  She’s such a clever little lady!  In fact, she seemed so excited now having to put on her Frozen or Minnie Mouse knickers without the bulging nappy underneath it.  Also, mornings lately had been quiet fun as I have to give a special surprise or treat to whoever has a dry bedtime nappy between her and Reimer.

Have you been potty training your kids recently?  How did your little ones get on with it?  Please tell me your experience in the comment below.

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48 thoughts on “The long journey of Potty Training

  • I potty trained my little girl over summer – the first two weeks were just a nightmare (more on that here http://motherhoodtherealdeal.com/2015/07/01/omg-9-wtf-moments-in-the-first-24-hours-of-potty-training/ ) and then she turned a corner and we never turned back. So I got over the arghhhh! stage but it has made me rather nervous about tackling nights! #BabyBrainMonday

    • ReimerandRuby

      It’s such a relief when we know we’re confident that there’s no more accidents, isn’t it? Night time potty is what I’m still struggling with my 5 yr old., that’s another arghhhh stage

  • Well done, Ruby. We haven’t really committed to it. Sit her on it sometimes, but she has never used it. She gets the point of the potty, but shows no indication of knowing when she is about to do something, so not sure if she is ready. But I do think, waiting for that signal, as they tell you to, could be a long wait with modern nappies. I don’t think she really feels wet to tell her she has had a wee, so she has nothing to associate it with. She’s generally a quick learner with things, so we are wondering if we should just be biting the bullet of nappy off all day so she can learn what it feels like when she wees and knows what she is meant to be trying to do. But that just feels like a lot of hassle with fully carpeted floors – I’m avoiding it! 😀 & I don’t really want to push her if really not ready as would rather do it more easily when ready than make it harder work than it needs to be. #babybrainmonday

    • ReimerandRuby

      Yes, totally agree, Ruby has been on pull-ups for ages but it didn’t help her with potty training, with nappy off is when she realized she’s being naughty when her pants got wet and that she’s meant to go to the toilet. We’re a bit lucky with wooden floors, easy to clean, although she had an accident in our carpeted floors in the bedroom too. It’s just hard work, more for us than for them.

  • Wow well written I totally missed all that because I was working and my daughter Was trained by someone else . visiting from #abitofeverything

    • ReimerandRuby

      Lucky you! Ruby was also partly trained by her childminder which is great. Help fro someone else is greatly appreciated.

  • Ha this is so true. My eldest was potty trained at 2 and 2 months. My son is 2 and 2 months now and I havnt even really thought about it yet. I am to scared that I wont be able to commit and then get frustrated and more stressed out. 2 kids is such hard work as it is, I just want an easy life! I was thinking I might wait unti we go on holiday next summer when he will be nearly 3 as we will have the time and commitment and all be feeling chilled. I think maybe its got a lot to do with when the parents are ready, maybe more than the child!

    • ReimerandRuby

      I totally agree with you, parents need to commit too, to do the training regularly and consistently and kids will just follow under parent’s guidance.

  • Oh potty training – I hate it!!!! My son has just turned 3 and just refuses to wee on the potty or toilet – he knows when he needs to go, just won’t go! He’s actually sitting on the toilet more nowadays so I think we’re getting there…slowly…but getting there! hard work though isn’t it! #bestandworst

    • ReimerandRuby

      I know, and it’s worse if our little ones are not even cooperating. It’s seems daunting for parents cleaning up the mess!

  • We potted trained our eldest on our two weeks holiday in the sun. It was a nightmare. We were both working parents and it was the only time we could do to ensure consistency, but it really wasn’t easy. It’s so difficult especially when you work. Great that they are both sorted now though xxx #mg

    • ReimerandRuby

      It’s double the hard work if you’re working too as you get tired when you get home and can’t be bothered anymore, just like me. It’s good that it worked for you, potty training whilst on holiday.

  • This has just reminded me that I should probably potty train my daughter soon! She’s 2 and 3months now and I’m pretty sure she’s almost ready. I’m dreading it though! #twinklytuesday

    Carolyn
    http://www.stylishmemories.com

    • ReimerandRuby

      The key is consistency, it makes the process quick considering she’s also ready. Good luck! hope it goes well…

  • I was considering staring potty training my toddler this summer (he turned two), but I could see that he just wasn’t ready. I spoke with all the mums I know and who have potty trained kids and they all recommended waiting. If the child is ready the process is relatively painless and can last as little as 3 days to a week.
    I am pregnant so I knew I would not have the energy to be consistent, and I think consistency is key in potty training process. Add to this that a lot of kids revert back to nappies when new baby arrives, and you’ll see why I’ve decided to wait. Most mum of boys told me that it takes longer for a boy to be ready.
    #sharewithme

    • ReimerandRuby

      I’ve heard that too, that actually prompted me to start off early with Ruby, but with consistency lacking, it still didn’t work. Potty training in itself is stressful enough how much more if you’re pregnant, I feel for you.

  • oh isn’t she gorgeous, she has done so well! I haven’t had to potty train in th longest time as Adam is now 6, but he still has some trouble at night, which both his male cousins did too, so we are trying to be patient there. Thanks for sharing with me #mg

    • ReimerandRuby

      I’m the same with Reimer, he’s 5 and still having problems with night time peeing. I’m just glad that Ruby is now potty trained as it made a big difference.

  • Ah, now this is interesting. We had the opposite issue. took ages to potty train CHild1 but CHild2 couldn’t get out of nappies quick enough. Seems like you’ve finally cracked it though. #babybrainmonday

    • ReimerandRuby

      Kids are really different, are they? some are quick learners, some aren’t but are clever on other areas as well.

  • hey,
    grand post. I’m currently finishing potty training my 3 year old daughter during the day. she’s my third daughter and has been excited to learn and watch how to do to it. but finding it hard to get her to do a no 2 on the potty or toilet she hates doing it. but she’s about 75% there with it. will wait for her to master that then try night time potty training, #abitofeverything

    • ReimerandRuby

      Good for you! I’m still battling with night time training with my 5 yr. old, can’t be bothered waking up in the middle of the night changing sheets, I know it should be done though.

  • Yay, well done, Mummy and Ruby! You are absolutely right – consistency is the key. It is too easy to let it be when you’re tired and just want to relax and who wants to wake up in the middle of the night for night training? I did use training pants with #3 and that helped quite a bit. #abitofeverything

    • ReimerandRuby

      Thank you! Now I’m dreading with night training, at the moment, still battling with Reimer’s night time training at the moment actually.

  • I found potty training Alfie a chore to be honest, weeing he was brilliant at, pooing was another matter but we cracked it eventually, I do wonder what potty training our 2nd will be like and what it will be like with a girl! Hope it continues to go well 🙂 Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst X

    • ReimerandRuby

      I have heard girls learn pretty quick, and that actually prompted me to start off early with Ruby… but I think consistency is still the key as it still took her ages to finally got it.

  • Hi there! We began potty training my son in Aug, aged 2 and 4 months. He had been showing signs of awareness for a while so we just decided to go for it.

    We decided to go all out, no nappies at all from the off. This meant A LOT of wee and poo on the floor for the first few days. Thankfully, within a week he had mostly got it.

    He now has the very occasional accident but otherwise it hasn’t been anywhere near as bad as I expected. Although we still use pull ups at night so that’s the next step!

    Thanks for sharing.

    #binkylinky

    • ReimerandRuby

      Good for you it only took you a week. Mine seem ages but I’m glad we’re over it now although an occasional accident happens sometimes though. I’m dreading the night time potty training now. Thanks for your comment!

  • Nige Higgins

    Great post our girls were potty trained quite quickly but still wear a nappy at nighttime glad it’s working out thanks for linking to the Binkylinky

    • ReimerandRuby

      It eventually worked out after being consistent. It’s great to know your little girls learned it quick.

  • We have twins and whilst took well to potty training, the other didn’t and took a bit longer. I’m dreading night time potty training! Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

    • ReimerandRuby

      I’m dreading the night time potty training too… I’m doing it atm for my 5 yr old and it’s a nightmare.

  • It’s been a long time since I had to do potty training – but I remember each time like it was yesterday 🙂 I’ve 3 daughters and the middle one was the quickest and easiest. The others seemed to take a life time – lots of wee on the floor :)) #binkylinky

    • ReimerandRuby

      Every child seems different, aren’t they? yep, potty training involves a lot of accidents, stinky pees on the floor.

  • We toilet trained Zach just before his third birthday a few months ago. It all wet pretty swimmingly,, there were of course accidents but he just took to it like a duck to water. Now, suddenly we have had three poo accidents in three days! I think he’s having too much fun playing with us that he’s not thinking about it until he absolutely needs to go. Hopefully it won’t continue but it’s a very sudden regression when you think you’ve tackled it! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    • ReimerandRuby

      Ruby is the same, she’s been doing great the first two week, then suddenly today she pooped on her pants… too much play have diverted her attention and forgot that she doesn’t have nappy anymore. Tsk Tsk!

  • My potty training days are long behind me. But I do remember that enormous relief and sense of achievement! However 2 of my kids are STILL wearing nappies at night. End me now. Thanks for linking to #BabyBrainMonday

    • ReimerandRuby

      I’m in the middle of night time training for my 5 yr old too… and he had more accidents than none, really a nightmare to deal with.

  • We started potty training Tin Box Tot during our summer holiday in August. I wanted two whole weeks to focus on it and get her used to having her nappy off. We are still having accidents but not every day. It’s a long process and it doesn’t help when TBT is so into everything and forgets to say she needs to the toilet. We are getting much better at asking her – that was also a problem for us in the beginning – but sometimes she’ll hold it too long because she doesn’t want to stop doing things 🙂 #KCACOLS

    • ReimerandRuby

      It’s like a battle of thoughts, whether going to the toilet or continue doing her stuff?, lol It definitely is a long process, still have the night time training to start off in the future.

  • I can relate so much we are in the process of potty training MM during the day and B still at night and having two potty training I want to hide my head in the sand and just wrote a post about it all so frustrating and not smooth. EEK. I wish there was a camp we could send them off to and return trained. I know they are not animals but its not easy first or second time. I haven’t had one of those miracle children that potty trained themselves yet. lol Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round. #sharewithme

    • ReimerandRuby

      Having a camp is actually a good idea… for sure it would be a hit, lol I’m the same night time training my 5 yr old and it’s a nightmare…

  • Well done to your little one! Ella was fully potty trained from 18 months and it only took her about three days to master it. From the first night she was dry. Holly on the other hand is 2 years 2 months and still not potty trained. I tried several months ago to potty train her but we had no luck what so ever. She still shows no interest in it now and when asked it’s a resounding NO! I think she’ll require an actual potty instead of a step up toilet seat.xx #KCACOLS

    • ReimerandRuby

      That’s amazing being fully potty trained by 18months… every child is different, you just can’t compare them. Good luck on potty training your little girl soon!

  • Oh wow!! Well done!! What a smart little girl you have!! Potty training for me has been always a nightmare with my first one but I mean for the night times. She was actually quick and easy during the days but during the night it has been very difficult to manage. She is 5 yo now and she is not using nappies at all during the night now but we still need to take her around 11 pm from the bed to the bathroom so she does a pee there. If we forget to take her there is a big possibility that she will have an accident!! So we can have a week with no accidents but then the following week she might have one!! So we are still dealing with it. That is why I’m not looking forward to nappy training Sienna!! Just the thought about it make me so lazy!! It is one of the things that I haven’t enjoyed at all teaching!! I hope I have a better luck with Sienna. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I’m very happy to have you this week again! 🙂 xx

    • ReimerandRuby

      I’m also still in middle of training my 5 yr old son at night time, sometimes he’s ok but sometimes not… really a nightmare to deal with. Ruby has been really great although a blip once in a while. Best of luck for potty training Sienna!

  • Yay!! Well done Ruby! I have to say I am in the same position you were! E was also potty trained when I was on mat leave and just before he was 3. We have been lazy in Potty Training M who is 3 next month! We really need to start ASAP – wish me luck!

    • ReimerandRuby

      I think the older you start potty training, the quicker they will be trained because they’re already more than ready… whereas with Ruby, I started off with her slightly early that’s why it took her a long time to finally potty trained too. Hope potty training M goes well.. Good luck!

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