Family first, work next… I understand that not everyone completely agree to this one which I assumed comes down to every individual’s priorities. Others differ and believe the other way around instead. Finding the right balance varies according to your personal circumstance, whether you’re single, married, have kids, newly graduated, starting a new job, or even when you’re nearing retirement.
In an ideal world, everyone dreams of having a healthy and well-balanced work and life situation where one is bound to be ultimately happy and reasonably contented. It’s unfortunate though that none of us got the manual to perfect the work-life balance concept. I don’t even know if it’s possible to achieve. Where exactly are we going to stand? It’s confusing and rather worrying to a some extent as it’s affecting our lives as a whole. Am I right to say that life is simply complicated?
Don’t get me wrong, I love to go to work. Working has been an important part of my life since I graduated in University back home. I love that working brings the feeling of self-fulfillment in me. It also gives me that sense of independence that I don’t have to rely from anybody financially because I’m earning one, I can provide for myself and I’m proud of it.
Nonetheless, since having my own family and having kids, my desire for work had shifted gradually. Now I’m more drawn to stay at home and spend more time with my kids rather than go to work. Is it too obvious to say that my family is my prime concern at the moment?
I stumbled upon this quote which I’m just going to share as it resonates with my current situation…
Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a LIFE.
I work almost full time Monday to Fridays with weekends off. Hence, our weekday routine is ridiculously crazy and absurdly demanding from early hours of the morning til bedtime. It’s too hectic that I end up being overly stressed and burnt out at the end of the day. Not to mention the childcare cost that comes along with it as well, which means it’s barely worthwhile for me working.
I must admit I rant over this all the time because I’m upset about how life can be such a never-ending struggle. In fact, I have a post asking myself if Am I a guilty Mum? because I’m constantly baffled as to what’s the best thing to do that suits us all constructively. The entire situation is rotten and unfair for them especially for my kids.
Last week, I received a good news… I called myself lucky! I was offered a change of shift among numerous applicants. It’s a reduced hours though and yet it works out perfectly with my family routine which is the main thing. The only downside of it though is less money, but money is not everything. Money can’t even buy happiness, so they say.
Actually, I officially started working in this new shift pattern this week. The advantages of the new shift weighs way over the disadvantage. To me, this is an ideal work shift that would eventually resolve my current dilemma. At the moment, this is how I balance and justify work and life…
Why I choose family first, work next…
- I have to say, my first week had made so much difference in my entire well-being. I feel more lively, cheerful and high spirited.
- I can now take the pleasure of walking with Reimer off to school before I head off to work.
- I don’t have to drag them out of bed early morning and they can consequently enjoy a longer sleep that their body requires.
- My kids can now have breakfast at home and can have a rather healthier meal.
- I am more relaxed and less exhausted as I’m not anymore working long hours. It simply made me happier, thus, giving good mood at home.
- I can save a bit on childcare cost as I don’t need one for him apart from Fridays where he’s only half day at school.
- I don’t have to worry of going to work knackered the next day if I stay up late at night.
- I have more time with my kids now as I’m not as preoccupied catching up on chores when I get home from work.
- I have more time with blogging as well, my favorite pastime. Another passion of mine where I can express myself and thoughts through writing.
- Additionally, I can now communicate with my family back home more frequently as I have more free time over the weekdays.
- Most importantly, it has made a lot of positive changes in our family and has improved our quality of life dramatically.
How do you balance work and life situation?
Do you also agree in family first, work next decision?
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